Don't Forget Introductions1/16/2025 One night a couple years ago, I was scheduled to perform at an unfamiliar venue. It was an exciting opportunity, and I was determined to make a good first impression. As I got out of the car to unload gear from the trunk, I saw two men in black t-shirts and jeans sitting on plastic chairs near the back door. One was tall and thin, his arms covered in tattoos. The other looked older and wearier, his body slumped and his right hand holding a wooden cane. They both stared at me like a pair of guard dogs protecting their territory. I tried squeezing the nervousness out of my voice and said to the younger man who looked a bit more receptive to talking, "Hi! I'm opening tonight." "Ok, follow me," he replied as the older man looked on silently, and we walked into the venue. Fast-forward to the gig a few hours later when it was time to collect the check. "The manager's in the office," one of the sound guys backstage said. I walked up a narrow flight of stairs and peaked into the the tiny office. Guess who the manager turned out to be? That weary older man with the cane. My cheeks flushed when I realized I had spoken only to the younger man earlier and had walked right by the manager (assuming from his slumped posture that the other guy had more authority). I silently kicked myself and vowed from then on to introduce myself properly (ex. "Hi, I'm Ashley. I'll be singing tonight." and offer a handshake) to each person I meet on a gig. That confident, open practice has made a big difference in starting up positive conversations. No matter where you are, you can practice introducing yourself to those around you, even when they don't look particularly important. At least, it could save you from embarrassment later on. At best, it might just lead to a new opportunity or connection. With gratitude, Ashley  Join me for this intimate listening-room style event I'll be playing with Brian Breen on guitar Saturday, Feb. 1, at Calmes House Concerts in Central, LA!
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You're Invited!1/6/2025  After a holiday season full of private events (weddings, wedding receptions, birthday parties and even a very classy baby shower), I'm so excited to kick off 2025 with you for a special House Concert (open to all) in the Baton Rouge area! Join me for this intimate listening-room style event I'll be playing with Brian Breen on guitar Saturday, Feb. 1, at Calmes House Concerts in Central, LA!
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AuthorAshley Orlando is a jazz vocalist/ukulele artist and joyologist on a mission to help 1 million women find their voice through music, inspiring stories, and communication skills. Archives
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