Don't Forget Introductions

One night a couple years ago, I was scheduled to perform at an unfamiliar venue. It was an exciting opportunity, and I was determined to make a good first impression.

As I got out of the car to unload gear from the trunk, I saw two men in black t-shirts and jeans sitting on plastic chairs near the back door. One was tall and thin, his arms covered in tattoos. The other looked older and wearier, his body slumped and his right hand holding a wooden cane.
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They both stared at me like a pair of guard dogs protecting their territory.

I tried squeezing the nervousness out of my voice and said to the younger man who looked a bit more receptive to talking, "Hi! I'm opening tonight."

"Ok, follow me," he replied as the older man looked on silently, and we walked into the venue.

Fast-forward to the gig a few hours later when it was time to collect the check.

"The manager's in the office," one of the sound guys backstage said.

I walked up a narrow flight of stairs and peaked into the the tiny office.

Guess who the manager turned out to be?

That weary older man with the cane.

My cheeks flushed when I realized I had spoken only to the younger man earlier and had walked right by the manager (assuming from his slumped posture that the other guy had more authority).

I silently kicked myself and vowed from then on to introduce myself properly (ex. "Hi, I'm Ashley. I'll be singing tonight." and offer a handshake) to each person I meet on a gig.

That confident, open practice has made a big difference in starting up positive conversations.

No matter where you are, you can practice introducing yourself to those around you, even when they don't look particularly important. At least, it could save you from embarrassment later on. At best, it might just lead to a new opportunity or connection.

With gratitude,
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Ashley

Join me for this intimate listening-room style event I'll be playing with Brian Breen on guitar Saturday, Feb. 1, at ​Calmes House Concerts​ in Central, LA!

• WHO: Ashley Orlando & Brian Breen
• WHEN: Saturday, February 1, 2025, at 7pm
• WHERE: Calmes House Concerts, Central, LA (Baton Rouge area)
• WHAT TO EXPECT: A listening-room style concert at a house! This is Calmes House Concerts' 13th year of hosting regular house concerts. The artists will play two sets of 45 minutes each. At intermission you can enjoy food (provided by the hosts) and meet the artists.
• COST: Suggested Donation of $20 per person (basket passed at intermission - Funds go toward the artists)
• RSVP to [email protected] if you'd like to attend (to receive the address).

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Can't wait to see you soon!